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Allah has enjoined on us our rights and responsibilities, so that human society will exist in a cohesive and harmonious manner. When there is disharmony and destruction, it means that somewhere we have failed to obey Allah. Love is not a pre requisite for marriage! Doesn't that sound strange in today's context!! However, the piety, faith and personality of the person are vital aspects that much be taken into consideration. This goes for chooses friends or marriage partners. After the basic ingredients are present, love will emerge.
Allah has enjoined on us our rights and responsibilities, so that human society will exist in a cohesive and harmonious manner. When there is disharmony and destruction, it means that somewhere we have failed to obey Allah. Love is not a pre requisite for marriage! Doesn't that sound strange in today's context!! However, the piety, faith and personality of the person are vital aspects that much be taken into consideration. This goes for chooses friends or marriage partners. After the basic ingredients are present, love will emerge.
So many people have tried to define love. Often it means different things to different people.
Everyone admits they need it.
It seems to be an emotion; a feeling on bonding between people. But does it occur in a snap?
There are certain ingredients which it contains; upon which it is built. Without them, love will not be found. People need to be respected, listened to , forgiven, taught and their needs must be met. If such aspects are missed love does not emerge.
How often people look at their spouse and think that at that moment, they really hate them. Then at a future time see another aspect of their personality and feel a deep loving feeling towards them. No one loves somebody all the time. Human beings are very complicated and can experience so many emotions at the same time. There are also many sides to our personalities.
Yet relationships are often based on this abstract emotion called 'love' and when it disappears the relationship often dissolves. Perhaps if we wait a little and be patient we will see another side of the person which is more acceptable and to our liking.
We can learn to 'love' that part of the person and try to ignore the other parts.
People are not disposable.
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