The Islamic Garden
Why Do I Feel So Bad?
It’s All in the Mind
Has
the world gone mad? Walking down the street, it is not
difficult to feel alone. Can this be so, even though we live in cities
with so
many people?
People
seem to move along somewhere between reality and where we are. Is it
just that
we don’t see each other, appreciate each other, or care to do so? So
many
people no longer feel. Violence or injustice happens and people just
move on
like they never saw a thing.
The
world now calls itself a global village. Maybe it’s become more like a
global
factory. It seems to be churning out more and more desensitized,
materialistic
individuals who suffer from compulsions to buy and fit into
predetermined
definitions of beauty and acceptability. Modern man is running a
frantic race.
A ‘village’
implies a group of people who work together for the common good; people
who communicate
and perceive life in a similar way, sharing a common culture. If we
truly
belong to a village of any kind; global or otherwise, it would be
impossible to
see crime, poverty or injustice and just keep living as if nothing had
happened. Have we forgotten the ties that bind us as humans?
Maybe
we have just become numb. We rush to work, then rush home again, watch
TV, eat something;
junk, fast or processed food, drink too much but hardly enough water,
socialize
with people who think and live like us, ignore the ‘other’, ignore
pain, (even
our own), ignore problems and sleep. Then we awaken to the barbaric
sound of an
alarm clock only to do it all over again. How many people stop to think
about
life, how we live it, and why?
We live with
pain. We do many things to suppress and hide it. As life becomes more
and more
complicated and expectations get more and more unrealistic, people
suffer. So
much energy is exerted trying to find joy and any amount of peace. We
entertain
ourselves with soul disturbing music, watch violent, blood thirsty,
surrealistic
films and live in the shadows of life. We seek to have more and more
possessions, more status, and more wealth as we drift further from each
other.
All this enhances our already over-developed sense of unreality.
People
complain of compulsive disorders, anxiety, depression,
psychosis, and are given quick-fix drugs to push them back into the
work force;
to be good consumers and exist in a comatose state of non-being; pushed
further
into a vacuum where the masses exist; where everything is nice,
peaceful,
‘enough’; an illusion of well-being.
The
family is being slowly dismantled. The once loving, supportive extended
family
is often scattered throughout cities and sometimes spread out between
countries. Time and space separates the hearts that need each other so
much.
Family members are so distant from each other that it hardly seems
worth it to
try and get to know each other all over again. The loving circle that
used to
form around the individual has been replaced with government help,
community-based
projects and pensions. Though such things help to cushion some of
life’s blows,
they can never provide the stable foundation on which children grow and
learn
to deal with reality with love and an open heart.
Are we
losing the last strong handhold that will prevent us from sinking into
the
chaotic push and shove of the rat race of the modern world? We have
courses
teaching us how to cope with stress, tension, and the pressures of
modern life
but has no one thought of a way to actually get rid of all these
pressures once
and for all? Can anyone show us the way back to our roots; to our
humanity?
In
distancing ourselves from each other; in denying who we are and living
in
isolation; in succumbing to the pressures of this materialistic,
individualistic world, we miss out on the love and joy we can share
with each
other. We miss out on learning from each other and giving each other
chances,
just by being our simple human selves, to show kindness and
forgiveness. In
comforting each other’s pain, in sharing our resources, in forgiving
each
other’s weaknesses and in offering a helping hand, we can rekindle our
humanity
and turn the tides.
(Quran,
78:40)
“...on the Day when man shall [clearly] see what his
hands have sent ahead…”
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